Heart Break

I heard some one talking on the radio yesterday about taking a break with your heart after having gone through a break up or divorce. It really does make sense to take a heart break to heal and figure out who YOU are, what YOU want. Take some time for you. Discover what it’s like to be alone, quiet time to figure out what YOU want for YOUR future!

As a coach I don’t advise people what they should do. Everyone knows what is best for them, but I am writing about this break for your heart from my own experience—a real story from my heart break. Do with it what you want but I took a whole year for just ME!!! I didn’t date, I went back to university to further educate myself and focused on my work and my son. A year of discovery about who and what was important to ME! I had forgotten who Tara was? Before I was a Mom or a wife (now x-wife) or a business owner. What was going to make me happy?

The year by myself really helped me find ME again. Going back to school and reading a ton of books on improving ME! I finally tried yoga and added that to my week of fitness and wellness. I discovered I could do it all on my own and didn’t need anyone else but after that year I also realized I didn’t want to have to do it all on my own (but cool to know I could). Thanks to a good friend who encouraged me to go onto Match.com and see if that guy I have been searching for my whole life was out there? After many different dates and discovering what I didn’t want I was luckily enough to find the man of my dreams. Someone I see my future with, someone I can grow old with, someone who can handle and love all of ME!!! At Christmas he asked me to marry him and I have to say I never thought I would do that again BUT I said YES!!! He just spoiled me again for my birthday with 44 red roses for my 44^th birthday. Had he come into my life a couple years ago I would have run away from him because I was not ready for this world wind love affair that has consumed and inspired me this last year. But I was ready. I was healed. I knew what I wanted in a partner.

You can take my story and use it if you want? Take a heart break and heal. I hope you take a year for YOU. I had no idea HOW it was going to happen or if it was ever going to happen but knowing ME I was not going to settle until I had it all!!! As I say to many of my clients “You need to love yourself before you can love another”. Sending you all the love and encouragement, I am luckily enough to be surround by every day, to dive into YOU this year! Enjoy the BREAK! Tara xoxo